Saturday, March 28, 2015

Top Ten Ways to Get Un-friended on Facebook

 It took something like Facebook to show us that some of our friends simply don’t have a sense of humor. Have you ever been un-friended?

I have and it hurts.
 First of all, I visit Facebook to: 
1. Communicate with friends 2. Talk about writing 3. Entertainment purposes only. 
There are a myriad of other places available to find pain and agony. If someone is spewing hatred, violence or anything that turns my stomach, I don’t necessarily un-friend but I might block that kind of post from my news-feed. 
Anyway, here are my lighthearted suggestions for things you should steer clear of on FB.
And admittedly, I'm guilty of a few....

Top Ten Ways to Get Un-friended on Facebook-
or as Dirty Harry would say, "A man's got to know his limitations."
1.       Be honest about politics.
2.       Be honest about religion.
3.       Over promote your novel.
4.       Promote your friend’s books.
5.       Share one too many dog videos.
6.       “Like” the embarrassing family photo.
7.       Admit you eat things with Gluten.
8.       Be critical of everything and have a low tolerance for the opinion of others.
9.       Spell like a caveman.
10.   Use profanity freely. (There are kids on FB.)

Are you on Facebook? Did anyone un-friend you? Did I miss anything? 


  1. To be perfectly honest, I don't really know if anyone has unfriended me. There are a lot of people on my Friends list that I don't really know and don't communicate with on a regular basis. I started out only wanting to add actual friends to my list, but if you're an author trying to promote your work, that's not the smartest thing to do (at least it wasn't until I finally figured out how to use the Author page I've had off and on for a while now).

    Everybody makes typos from time to time. I certainly do. But sometimes the spelling and grammar are so bad, it's hard to figure out what the other person is actually saying. I really hate the persistent Buy My Book messages, even though I'm an author. There are better ways to win new readers. I've learned to stay away from those who are looking for a fight. Better to ignore the haters.

    I have cut back on sharing blog links. I've heard complaints about having too many of them. I do share the best ones.

    There are no kids on my Facebook Friend list, and my personal page is now Friends-Only, so I don't have to worry about that.

    I did discover that if we Like a Page and don't visit it at least sometimes, we get deleted by Facebook, so I'm trying to remember to visit those pages.

    1. I know I'm guilty of the 'buy my book one'. LOL Thanks for the thoughtful answer to my post. I was un-friended by someone from school and it still hurts. It must have been political. I need all the friends I can get and now, you're one of them.

    2. Those who are really your friends won't unfriend you because you disagree with them.

  2. One of the things I've found handy with pages one likes is to get notifications on them- otherwise you might visit once or twice and then never again with the way Facebook does its news feed these days.

    I have been unfriended on Facebook. It's not the end of the world.

    1. It's not the end of the world? Is that a religious comment? LOL

  3. There are friends and then there are friends. On FB it's as ever changing as some people's relationship statuses. But I know the feeling. Someone unfriended me who had been a very supportive writing mentor about something I commented on relating to a political issue. I work hard to see both sides of most issues. She just felt strongly against my thought on this. When I realized she had done that, I messaged her and told her I had not meant to say anything to offend her. At the time, I hadn't made the connection to the comment. She friended me back, but our relationship has never been the same, and it makes me sad. But I've had a family member unfriend me because of a misunderstanding. I let that one go because there's no pleasing this girl. I've quit trying.

    1. It is sad when someone unfriends me. Can't please everyone.

  4. Excellent suggestions. The politics one is the most frustrating for me. People have a hard time just giving their opinion without saying how stupid everyone else is.

  5. Now I know why I'm not on Facebook.
    I think the anti-gluten craze is way over the top. Guess everyone would unfriend me.

  6. Oh, boy ... I've done 7 out of 10 of those things.

  7. I'm doomed, if for no other reason than dog videos! Gee, how can anyone not like dogs videos...or any other animal for that matter. If I've been unfriended I'm not aware of it, but I'm sure my day is coming.

  8. Ok I went on FB and Linkin (?) whatever because two very good friends kept telling me they needed me to join. it was good and I would see their photo and get work... hell i'm retired I do my own work I want to delete my pages. Why because people of friends second twice removed step-uncles are friending me ? who the heck are these people and why do they want to friend me ? if they really knew me and some of my believes they would never friend me.... plus the pages are confusing and I can't figure it out.
    hahahahaha, I wrote that in on breath !
    If someone that was your friend from school unfriended you I say poo !
    Most of my Tucson friend do not agree with my political belief and that covers my family too ! We haven't unfriended each other.
    Your so called friend is a jerk or as we say boo boo head.
    You are my friend ! even if you didn't like my backyard ideas !

    cheers, parsnip

  9. I haven't had the time to be on this week. OY vey!

    Hugs and chocolate!

  10. When one of my FB "friends" who posts a picture of themselves standing in front of the restaurant where they had lunch everyday unfriends me for being honest about religion and politics, it's a win/win.

  11. If I've been unfriended, I don't know. There's a few people I'd like to block, but then I worry about that.
    I'm on fb for the same reason, Eve. I try not to over-promote books. Your post was a humorous look at the whole thing.
    Wishing you well (:

  12. I'm not sure if I've been unfriended or not, but if someone unfriends me because I wrote something offensive, then I don't want them to read my stuff, so it's okay.

    I have "hidden" people from my timeline due to their posting things that I don't care about, but I wouldn't "unfriend" anyone for those reasons. There are ways to keep their posts from reaching you, and if you find certain friends consistently commenting to you about your supposedly offensive posting or attitude, put them in a group and keep certain posts from their view. Other friends will see them, just not those pains in the ass. :)

  13. Oops, I'm guilty of to many dog videos...and cat videos and generally all sorts of animal videos.

  14. Naw! You haven't missed a thing. I'm dropping by from the A to Z Challenge! Hope you are as excited as I am. Have fun tomorrow!
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  16. Sorry about that. I am dropping by from the A to Z Challenge. Hope to come back tomorrow and see what you have going. I have unfriended and been unfriended on Facebook. Yep, it hurts. I have found that the fewer family and friends I have on Facebook the less I have to worry about hurt feelings.

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  17. lol, love these. People who unfriend me were never my friends anyway.